I have a serious issue I have to address: I have a savior complex.

Helping others is something I genuinely value. I want to be reliable, proactive, and supportive. Recently, though, I’ve realized that constantly stepping in to “save” others—even when it seems helpful—can have unintended consequences.

It can impact growth.

When I solve problems that aren’t mine to handle, I unintentionally create dependency. More importantly, I prevent others from navigating challenges, building confidence, and developing their skills.

This has been a difficult realization for me. Why do I feel so compelled to step in?

• I want to be helpful and supportive.
• I care about outcomes and ensuring things go smoothly.
• I take pride in being someone others can rely on.

But I’ve learned that “helping” doesn’t always mean “doing.” Sometimes, the best way to support others is to trust them to work through the process—even if it means stepping back and letting them struggle a little. Growth often comes from those struggles.

Therefore, I’m working to change how I respond:

• Asking questions instead of providing solutions: “What do you think could work here?”
• Trusting others to take ownership and navigate challenges in their own way.
• Resisting the urge to jump in unless absolutely necessary.

It’s not easy, but I’m learning that by letting others grow, I give myself more space to focus on my priorities and growth, too.

Have you ever struggled with the urge to “fix” things for others? How do you balance being supportive while letting go? I’d love to hear your thoughts.